This week I've been feeling really "BLAH!" Could it be because the rush of the holidays are over and so I don't have anything to "look forward to"? Or could it be because the valley is full of yucky smog and so I haven't really been outside in a while? Is it because what I would like to be in my life right now seems to be happening to everyone else? Or is it something else all together? Whatever it is, I know that my focus isn't where I want it to be. This year, Dan and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary! Although we won't be going to Hawaii like we had hoped, we will (hopefully) be getting away for a couple days while Anne spends time with Nana. However, in the mean time, I need to be focusing more of my time and energy on him. Not just making dinner, getting his sandwiches ready for work and giving him a kiss at the door goodbye...although, he should feel special that we make a big deal about him going to and coming home from work!
A couple from Canada that Dan knows really well and I came to love while they stayed with us a few days last year gave us this figurine of a couple embracing for Christmas. It is titled "Together" and it is sitting on our desk (to my left) and I just love to look at it. While sitting here today, looking through blogs, I had an "Ah-ha" moment! The reason I'm feeling so blah is because I'm focusing too much on me, what I want and what will make me happy! Yes, I spend a lot of time throughout the week thinking of others, and so some of you may say that I should be thinking of myself, but I also need to be thinking of my family...Dan and Antonia...and what I can do to help them be happy as well. They tend to be pushed to the side when I have a meeting or other obligation. And although I can't make those things go away, I can make the most of the time that I do have with them.
I thought about doing a 365 blog like so many others are doing but I'm such a perfectionist and so it would become a task that if I didn't do it, it would make me feel like a failure. So, I ruled that one out. Then I thought about doing something on a monthly basis. A little bit easier to handle. But, I also want it to have a theme focused on my family and what I can do to help bring happiness to our home.
So...here is my focus for January- and since it was inspired by the figurine, it is going to be about Dan and I. I'm going to try to come up with one nice thing each day that I can do for Dan that isn't part of what I have to do! Now, that may sound easy but it can also be hard since I'm the one folding his laundry, etc. So, it might be a little note that I slip in his lunch box or just reorganizing his closet for him (for the 10th time) without pointing it out to him like I did the last 9 times!
I think what I will do is make a list (I LOVE making lists) of everything I come up with and then I'll share that list with you at the end of the month. And I know that Dan reads this blog...so now it can be a little bit of a challenge to see if I can do these things without Dan noticing. Obviously, however, I'd want the note in the lunch box to be noticed! So I'll also note if I was successful or not. It really is going to be more about me thinking more about him and his hapiness rather than being praised each day for something I did. If I do it for the praise, then once again...it is all about me! And that isn't the point!
And each month I'll post a new focus to help make this year a happy, wonderful and fun one for me and my family! I already have ideas rolling around in my head now...I just needed to give them a kick start!
4 comments:
I have to contradict you here - I really doubt that the reason you are blah is because you are overly focused on yourself. I just don't see that happening to you. What I would say is that you might be too caught up in trying to make your life fit a certain idea in your head instead of looking at what you have and being happy in the present.
But I do think your plans for your Focus experiment sound like fun. Can't wait to see your list (I'm just as list crazy as you! lol)
Alisha, I have to agree with Alayna. You are not an inward focused kind of person. You are always thinking of others and doing everything for others. I've seen it. You radiate Love and Service to everyone. Just like your mom. It must be a Dewey thing. You're all the same when it comes to helping others. It's really an amazing thing to witness from the outside. I love you, and I'm excited to see this new goal blossom and become an inspiration to us all.
What a great goal to have! I love the idea of focusing on a certain thing each month. I agree with you on the 365 thing...I'd feel like a failure if I didn't get to it everyday so I like what you're doing instead. I can't wait to see your list.
I have to agree with alayna, I highly doubt you are feeling this way because you are focused on yourself. I hate it when I get in these ruts, but I think it is good we go through them. I think it helps us reevaluate everything we have in our lives. It helps us to be grateful. I think the smog doesn't help either. My sister made a Love Jar, which was so cute. She was not very nice being pregnant and he was feeling a little "left out" and so she made this love jar and filled it with everything she loved about him. She put goofy ones and serious ones and all sorts of things she loves about him. It helped her redirect her focus and helped her remember who he is and why she married him. I think that you list is similar and will help you as well. I think that is a great idea!!
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